Robin, love, honey… If someone had told me 4 years ago, when we met at Chaplain School, that we’d be standing up here today, I doubt either of us would have believed it. And yet, here we are. And I wouldn’t change a single second of the last four years.

You are, hands down, the most compassionate person I have ever met. Your heart, your passion, your dedication to those around you and whatever you’re working on, inspires me every single day. Your ability to recognize my needs and my boundaries, to honor and respect them, and yet, at the same time, to ever so gently encourage me to grow them, makes me fall deeper in love with you every day.

To be your partner, to be the person you come home to, to be the one who gets to sit with you when you’re incredibly frustrated by the bureaucracy of the military or to listen to you gush about the impact you had in a counseling…

I cannot wait to continue this life with you. And I vow that I will always be there, to listen and uplift you in those moments.

And in those moments when you’re frustrated by all of it, I vow to be the push for productivity when you need it and when all you want is to sit in bed and watch TikToks.

I vow that I will be there with you, every step of this journey of life, to support you and your work, and to help provide whatever it is you need to balance out.

But most importantly, I vow that every day, I will wake up and choose to be with you, and to give you my all at being your partner, and to handle whatever this crazy life throws at us. I love you.

Email: rrenner@igc.org

My not-shy caring introvert. We met at a time when I was beginning to think I might just never meet someone who I could get along with long term. And then when we did meet, it was so easy. We communicate so well! A year and a half in, I told someone that when you know you know, and I know. I want to spend the rest of my life next to you. I want to grow with you. I want to build a home and a life with you. And so I vow, that no matter what kind of sickness the universe throws at us, I will be here. I will not leave. I know there will be days, maybe weeks, where I will need to work full time and then come home and take care of you and the house as best I can, and that's ok. I won't vow not to complain, but I vow to be here. I vow that whatever your body brings, it will be brought to us, not just to you.

I vow that I will talk with you when I'm upset. That I will bring up issues or problems as early as I can, so we can work on them. I vow to be direct and open in my communication. I vow to take care of myself, and to listen to you when you tell me I need to rest. I vow to work on setting boundaries, and to listen when you help me set ones. I vow to tell you before I invite people over, especially to spend the night. I vow to ask you before I make plans. I vow to make you popcorn when you ask, and to let you make the pasta.

I vow to support your career path, wherever it may take you. I vow to make big life decisions together with you, and yes this includes getting another dog. I vow to do my best to grow with you, not apart from you. To help with that, I vow to go on regular dates with you, to keep our relationship a priority, and to treat our relationship, separate from ourselves, with the same respect I treat us as individuals. And if we hit a really hard patch, I vow to pursue therapy, mediation, and anything else we need to do preserve our relationship and these vows.

Most importantly, I vow to love you like you love country music. Which means there's only one thing left to do!

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